Valentine’s Day is around the corner. Of course you knew this already, hoardings and print ads and TV commercials and radio spots and websites won’t let you forget it after all. No, I’m not from the Shiv Sena – I don’t condemn this day, at all. I do though; think of the Shiv Sena, only once a year around Valentine’s day. How romantic that sounds! But the point is I’m not a hater. And if you knew me better you’d know just how much I actually believe in love and the fact that it makes our world go round.
What’s my beef with V-Day then? (Psst, will I be banned for using the word beef?!)
Well see, I’m a firm believer in ‘different strokes for different folks’. You can love Valentine’s day and that’s totally okay. You can guffaw at the sheer consumerism of it all, and that’s okay too. You can be single AF and hate this holiday for making you feel so annoyingly single and that’s really okay too. What is not okay, is the kind of pressure we put on this one day to determine our own state of mind and the fate of our relationships. That is ridiculous, and yes we all do it. Stop acting like a nun and tell me, have you never placed too many hopes on V day being the most romantic frickin’ day in the year?
Cut the men some slack! They may not be of the ‘big gesture’ variety. They may not find it worth it to spend so much money on roses which they know will die in two days. Sorry to unleash my morbid self on you but these are facts, ladies. Maybe they even want to do something nice for you but they are just not sure how to go about this without coming across as total wimps. I don’t know…I’m just guessing.
Truth is; judge your relationship by what your man brings to your life and what you bring to his. Don’t just pin all your hopes on ‘special occasions’. He may blow it in the extravagance department but he may be the most rock solid sense of support you’ve ever had in your life. Honey, if you look close enough you’ll see that this boy is a keeper. He’s got your back 364 days a year so I’m pretty sure you can overlook this one!
This Valentine’s Day, do what you gotta do. Dress up if you please. Do the fancy wine and dinner and whatever it is you want to do. Have sex. Tell your crush you love them. Make your husband feel like a king. Feel pampered if there’s someone to pamper you. Scratch that. Pamper yourself. Do what makes your heart happy – this one is true for absolutely any day of your life. ALWAYS do what makes your heart happy.
But don’t hate on him for not living up to your V Day expectations. It’s a holiday, it’ll pass. Okay? Good Girl!
Happy Valentine’s Day from me to you!
Yeah, babe, you always got me 🙂
All my love,